If you are like me and you like looking at pretty things, including pretty, well-dressed women this is a little reminder not to forget ourselves. The French have a lovely expression when looking at a beautiful woman – ‘se rinser l’oil’ – it means ‘to feast your eyes.’
And if you tell me that I am putting too much emphasize on appearance, stop and think a minute – doesn’t the first impression influence us in forming an opinion about a person? Of course this is nothing new.
Here are a quotes going back as far as the eighteenth-century.
‘Dress changes the manner’ – French philosopher Voltaire
‘People who can’t get it together are uninterested in themselves’ – American designer Halston
‘A respectable appearance is sufficient to make people more interested in your soul’ – French Designer Karl Lagerfeld
‘The clothes we wear send a message about how the world perceives us’ – Tim Gunn from Project Runway (Maybe it was one of your favorite programs?)
Now looking our best does not happen by itself. Not even the models smiling down at us from the pages of magazines get up in the morning looking glamorous. But we all know they have a lot of help before they are photographed for the pages of Vogue. And even women who are not models, and that is most of us, need a little help. And the person to help you, is you.
Take some time to create the picture you want the world to see — and wouldn’t it be nice if somebody would feast their eyes on you?
Sharing a few friendly words with another person, even a stranger in a supermarket or a train station, or when the situation allows, is easy. All you have to do is smile, ask a question, and start the conversation.
This is what I did last Saturday. I walked up to the flower display at Loews, where a lady was looking at the flowers too.
“Aren’t they pretty?” I asked her
“Yes, but then you never know how long they will last, how fresh they are, and if you like them when you get them home.”
This is a DON’T.
Watching her walk away without flowers I was wondering how somebody can have so many excuses for not wanting a splash of cheerfulness in their life. (No, she didn’t look like she couldn’t afford to buy flowers. She was very well dressed and groomed). And it was not the flowers fault either, they looked very fresh. It was her negative attitude that prevented her from taking home a pretty bunch of flowers which would have added a ray of sunshine to her day.
Andrew Weil M.D. who often appeared on Channel 13 giving advice on how to make us feel better, always mentioned that flowers should be part of our life, because, besides their beauty, they give us energy –
…but you have to buy the flowers first!
If YOU have experienced any negative or positive behavior it would be wonderful if you shared it with us. It will remind us how to embrace the positive in life, and how important it is to get rid of anything negative.
What a silly question you will say. Of course I do – but how? I know from experience that with exercise it is very difficult to lose stubborn fat at a specific place. Exercise firms the body but that little pouch or extra fat somewhere does not seem to be impressed by exercise.
So while visiting my dermatologist to have a mold taken care of I found a brochure in the waiting room that talked about Body Contouring. Never having heard of it (maybe I am a little behind) I read on.
No, it is not liposuction. The brochure explained that it is done with lasers, and best of all the 25 minute procedure avoids surgery. If you are interested in learning more go to http://www.sculpsure.com.
I believe in solutions and having choices. This might be one for you to say goodbye to any little extra padding you might have here or there!
Never forget – A Smile Changes Everything
YOUR THOUGHTS – it would be interesting to hear from anyone who had it done, or who is thinking about it – please leave a comment
Have you started to make the switch from winter to summer in your wardrobe?
I have just started….. and I have to admit that I hate everything I see. Why? Maybe because the warm sunshine, the budding trees and flowers give me the feeling of wanting a new beginning, a new start. But looking at my clothes they don’t match my longing for a new look. Instead they make me feel like I am left over….left over from when? That depends on how many seasons I have switched an item back and forth.
There is a chapter in my book LET GO OF THE CLOTHES YOU DON’T WEARANYMORE (please believe me I do take my own advice) but this year seeing all the beautiful, bright-colored clothes, including bags and shoes which come in orange, turquoise, yellow and any shade of pink, I think I have to read that chapter again and let go of even more things than I did during my last clean out.
Some of you might say that your clothes are like old friends and maybe they feel that way, but look again – even friends can out-stay their welcome. A few splashes of color will lift your spirits – replace the beige ( we all have plenty of it in our wardrobe) with a bright blue or fuchsia or any other color of the rainbow out there.
The other day I saw this pair of shoes in the window of the Ferragamo store on Fifth Avenue – wonderful aren’t they? But even if you don’t want to be that extravagant it certainly drives home the message that bright and cheerful is the way to go this summer!
Polka-dots are happy little spots that make any garment and its wearer look cheerful and carefree. They come in many different sizes and colors; yet regardless, they always seem to dance with every move you make – remember the dress you had which was covered with big dots and made your waist look so small?
Polka-dots have a long history – in 1926 Miss America was photographed in a poker-dot swimsuit. After the second World War many of Christian Dior’s New Look designs were bedecked with dots. In 1951 Marilyn Monroe was seen in a polka-dot bikini and in 1960 Brian Hyland’s hit song Itsy Bitsy Teenie Weenie Yellow Polka Dot Bikini made us dance seeing dots.
They have never left the fashion scene totally. But this year’s spring fashion has embraced dots in a big way. What? Your waist is not as small as it used to be? Don’t worry! These happy little spots will dance with you as readily now as they did ….. when? No, don’t say how long ago, remember your age is nobody’s business but yours. Let’s just say, as they did when you were dancing to Brian Hyland’s tune.