It has been a long time that I have posted something – life has been busy and challenging in the last year – but enough excuses.
I recently had an experience I would like to share with you. It is about inheritance! It might be helpful to those of us who are 70 or older. Yes, we all would like to leave something for our children and grandchildren – we would like to be remembered! Some of us even keep their lifestyle modest, and say ‘I want to leave something for the kids, you know.’
Yes I know! But when I started thinking about my own mortality, and asked myself how I might be remembered, an interesting question came up – ‘am I leaving my children and grandchildren with enough memories?‘ Of course – was my first reaction, remembering all the Christmases, birthdays, and holidays of the past – but what about now?
NOW became a trip to Europe for the whole family. Yes, doing this I gave away some of their inheritance, but being told – how nice to share this time with you – or the children (nearly teenagers) – will never forget the trip to the Jungfrau – or this was the best trip ever – I knew that making memories, which nobody can take away, is worth more than whatever an executor can assign.
How full is your family memory box? Is there room to add a few events? They don’t have to be big events – taking your grandchildren for a ride on the Staten Island ferry is one – or arranging (another word for picking up the tap) a picnic with the family on the beach – are memories your family carries in their hearts long after the sun has set.
And always remember – A Smile Changes Everything!
I Hope you had a wonderful beginning of 2019 and to help you start it off in the right direction here is an excerpt of my new book GETTING OVER GROWING OLDER .
When you speak about yourself, you always say, “In my life.” But do you really have only one life? I don’t think so. Looking back, I see that I went through many different phases, which all had a distinct beginning and end like chapters in a book. this phase of your life is a new chapter. Will it be a happy one filled with challenges, new experiences, joy, and laughter?
That depends on you. You are the Author of this new chapter in your life, and you will write the story’s happy ending. Yes, there will be difficulties, and your will have to deal with them, but the story will be happier and easier to write if you stay optimistic, positive, and refuse to let old age creep in between the lines.
The only thing constant is change. How you deal with change determines your future — and if you never give up – the future will be brighter
And never forget – A Smile Changes Everything!
This is the moment of the year when we would like to rid ourselves of everything that did not work and make it better next year by making New Year’s resolutions. And with the hope of a new year the list of most people will be is very ambitious.
But is it really something you want to do? Maybe not! You will ask why not? Because the list for the New Year won’t be so different from last year’s – no, you didn’t lose the 20 pounds this year, no you didn’t visit your brother as you had put on last year’s list, and while making a new list do you really want to remind yourself of all the broken resolutions?
I have a better idea – how about making a Happiness List. This will record all the good thing that happened in the last year – those which gave you joy and you are proud of. It will be a happy ending to the year that is just leaving us – your list might look something like this:
- – remembering that you got your degree
- – remembering getting married
- – remembering the trip to made
- – remembering evenings with friends
- – remembering sharing time with your family
- – remembering how you felt when you were promoted
- – remembering shopping trips with your girlfriends
- – remembering the warm, fuzzy feeling when holding your dog.
Of course your list will look different and probably be longer. When I made my happiness list I was surprised about all the positive events and happenings the past year has been filled with. It makes me feel confident and gives me hope for the New Year, promising that more good things are on the way.
New Year’s resolutions are self-imposed expectations which one probably can’t or won’t keep – so instead of having unrealistic goals start your HAPPINESS LIST – you still have time before the clock strikes 12 – then your glass of champagne to greet the New Year is not half empty by half full overflowing with happy bubbles.
Wishing you a
Happy New Year – Bonne Annee -Feliz Ano Nuevo – Frohes Neues Jahr
And Never forget – A Smile Changes Everyhting!
Going shopping is always fun – but not so today. Today it was not about shopping but about saying goodbye to Lord & Taylor. How many of my lunch times have I spent there over the last 20 years? – strolling through the isles and roaming the designer stocked floors. The store was just up the street from my office and I used to call it my second home.
Today empty shelves, empty glass counters and racks half filled with left overs, stood lost on the only three floors still open. Well, January 2, 2019 is around the corner, the date the oldest department store in the US will close the doors of its flagship store on Fifth Avenue which opened in February 1914.
I will miss going there, shopping there, spending time there, but more importantly it represents the end of era. A serious reminder when you are over 50 like me. It brings to mind that a part of my life, something I cherished is gone, and will never come back. I know change is good, change is necessary, but sometimes I would be grateful for a bit more time!
Thank you Lord & Taylor
And Always remember – A Smile Changes Everything!
When opening your closet you see rows and rows of clothes patiently and seemingly silently waiting for attention. Yes, you show preference for some of these items by picking them again and again, but if you stopped for just a moment you would hear the cry for recognition, the plea to be chosen by the rest of your clothes, but your mind shuts down as quickly as you close the wardrobe doors. You don’t want to hear the green jacket asking you ‘why have you ignored me for the last 2 years?’ You don’t want to feel guilty for always choosing your favorites things, those which make you feel and look good. And even if you acknowledge that you have too many clothes you don’t want to admit that your bulging wardrobe is your doing. You make-believe you don’t know how this happened? Your closet just becomes fuller and fuller.
But if you took a moment to listen to what your wardrobe has to tell you, you would be happier with your clothes and your clothes would be happier with you. What is really happening is that when you open your wardrobe there is a voice in your mind that makes them speak – and here is what they say:
– why do you never wear me?
– why do you keep me if I don’t fit you anymore?
– why did you buy me? red is not your color?
– when will you ever go dancing again or need a cocktail dress?
– why do you keep me – I am 10 years old and look worn?
– why do you keep something that is out of fashion?
– why did I get into your closet – I am not your style?
– why did you buy me – because I was on sale – I was a good deal?
– why don’t you remove the tags from me – will you never wear me?
– why can’t you control your impulse buying?
If you answer these questions honestly – especially this one – was it on sale – and take action you will silence these voices and have a slimmer wardrobe you love and which loves you back.
And Never Forget – A Smile Changes Everything!
I hope you enjoy this video and if you don’t have a full-length mirror this might give you a reason to buy one.
And Never Forget…. A Smile Changes Everything!
I have always worn my hair shoulder length and liked the feeling of my hair touching my neck. But that good feeling vanished when I looked in the mirror – who is that old girl looking out at me? Reluctantly I admitted it was me, and decided it was time to cut my hair short.
When I came to the hairdresser he asked, “What do we do today?” “We get rid of that old girl” I answered. He laughed, “Don’t say that.” He was polite of course.
When looking around it is amazing how many older, and even very old women wear their hair long; some very long – but it never makes them look younger; on the contrary! I do understand that cutting off those long cherished locks feels like losing ones youth.
I am convinced shorter hairstyles make a woman look younger. We can’t hide the extra years with flowing locks, they belong to the young and restless.
Walking out of the hair salon I felt naked, and looked in every window or mirror I passed to reassure myself that I had done the right thing. But hearing others say ‘Oh, I love your hair you look so much younger’ reassured me that I will never miss that old girl.
Remember that the face is the first thing you see when looking at a person and to enhance it there is nothing better than a nice hairstyle that makes you look younger!
And Always Remember – A smile Changes Everything!
And Always Remember – A Smile Changes Everything!