The money you have worked for most of your life is now ready to be spent. But I know from experience that it is easier said than done. After all we have been used to saving our money, to being careful and not wasting any and always being reasonable how we spend it. The nest egg we have built that way is comforting, but now is the time to change the rules and have that nest egg do something for us.
I got my first wake-up call when my husband tried to book a cruise for us from Berlin to Prague. When he finished talking to the travel agency and told me the price my reaction was that this was more than I thought we should spend. He had no comment at first. But after a while he looked at me and said, “Well, if you want your heirs to go instead, we won’t go!”
It took me only a second to say ‘book it’ because suddenly I was scared that I might not go if I don’t go now, that my time might be limited. No, don’t misunderstand me, I do want my heirs to go on a cruise too, but honestly, I don’t want them to go instead of me!
Many friends of mine who are also in their Golden Years don’t buy or do things they would like by using excuses like, “I can get that cheaper somewhere else” or “I don’t really needthat” (you don’t have to need it to want it) or “I have to think about it” – really – why?
Oh, yes and then there is ‘since I don’t know how long I will live I have to be careful.’ True – but what our generation has learned when it comes to spending money will never make us go crazy or reckless. So letting a few more dollars slip out of our purse for extra pleasures will not ruin us. And if you are healthy listen to my friend Carol who, when paying for a treat, always says ‘at least I am not spending it on medication.’
If you take this little pep talk to heart – the extra dollars spend will give you joy you deserve.
And Never Forget – A Smile Changes Everything! Brigitte
This is the result of a study done in Luxembourg. A country where, through proximity of other countries, people speak at least 2 if not 3 languages – German, French, Luxembourgish.
The study was done by Magali Perquin of the Department of Health and it concluded that compared with other countries the percentage of older people with dementia is lower in Luxembourg, 3.8 % against 6.4% in Europe, 7.1% in Latin America and 8% in Canada. They believe there is a strong possibility that it is the result of people speaking several languages.
It has long been said that challenging the brain with mental exercises like Crossword Puzzles will help to keep individual brain cells alive. But maybe doing crossword puzzles is not your thing? Therefore, could learning French be an option?
No, it’s not too late. Quite the contrary. It might be the answer to the question many older or retired people ask – how can I find a new purpose or an activity to occupy my time? And if it is not French you want to learn but you wouldn’t mind speaking another language, think of your vacation or travel plans – going to Italy next? Wouldn’t it be nice to order your dinner in Italian?
An added advantage to taking classes – no, not on-line- will be that you meet other like minded people – and you never know who you might meet and who is ready to go to Italy too!
It has been put in my mailbox for some years, but I never read it until recently. And now turning the pages I don’t miss anything. And if you receive the magazine I would like draw your attention to an article in the June/July issue entitled Leading Ladies.
The Leading Ladies are Sharon Stone, Alfre Woodward, and Jane Fonda – as my grandmother used to say “age happens to everybody.” But without giving the story away here are some of the points they made – and I quote:
Sharon Stone 58- I don’t think we have to accept the assignment of aging, that all of a sudden you’re supposed to be dowdy………..
Alfre Woodaard 63- Age is what you decide you want it to be. I am still in motion.
Jane Fonda 78 – If you would have told me when I was 20 or 30 that I’d be happier at 70, I would have said to you ‘You are out of your mind.’
The encouragement of these ladies is uplifting and can inspire any woman to make the best of life’s third act.
Do you have a story you would like to share? Would love to hear it!
Including vacations — including mine to England and Italy. No, I didn’t send you a postcard but I brought one back to show you how beautiful the Trevi Fountain has been restored.
However, I did not start my vacation in Rome. I first visited London, where in a quaint country pub (pubs equal England for me) called The Bell in Purleigh, Essex a friend of mine who lives in London had organized a book signing party. The building dates back to the 14th century and is believed to have been the home of George Washington’s great-grandfather, who was the rector of the village in 1634.
A perfect setting – and while enjoying cones with cream and strawberries plus a good cup of tea, listening to a chapter from the book made it a delightful afternoon. The ladies shared their feelings about growing older and answered a questionnaire about what is on their Bucket List (which I will tell you about in my next blog).
And when after a few hours everyone went home with a signed copy under their arm, I felt that the book had made a big step forward by coming to England.
Do I really wish you were here? Maybe! And then maybe not! But these are words which will resonate with anybody who went on vacation during the 1960s and 1970s. Postcards arriving from Italy, Atlantic City, New York, or from anywhere in the world reassured us we were missed.
Writing postcards was an important part of any holiday at that time. I remember sometimes I sent as many as 15 + cards. No, I didn’t think ‘what a drag’. I liked to do it, because I knew my friends were waiting for them. And when I had forgotten somebody I had a lot of explaining to do when I came home.
I am going on vacation next week and a friend just told me, “Be in touch – you know on Facebook – I can see where you are, if you are having a good time, and how the food is.”
Postcards didn’t show what we ate and once dropped into a mailbox we could enjoy our vacation without Facebook hounding us for more news.
I think here is a generation gap?
I will be away for three weeks and will try to stay in touch – please check back here or on my – yes, Facebook page. Happy July!