Category: Being Alive

REGRETS – keep them out of your life!

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Regrets, regrets – who doesn’t have any? Maybe some people don’t. I call them  the lucky ones, but most of us do regret this or that. The worst kind of course is the self-made kind – the kind we could have avoided.

Well, let me tell you about the time I really screwed up. I missed something I can never get back and the worst is, it was my doing. Mine alone. I say  it was my doing because I when first heard of it I was all fired up to follow my desires and enthusiasm, but then the little devil in my mind (we all of one of those) started talking to me and said:

  • it is not a reasonable thing to do (being too reasonable can spoil a lot of fun)
  • the time for preparation is too short (I had a week – it would have been enough)
  • maybe you won’t  get a ticket (I could have gotten one through a friend)
  • will all that money be worth it (I wanted nothing more than to be there)
  • what will your family and friends say (what can they say – it’s my time, my money, and they are not me)

Yes, the little devil in my head had won. He had talked me out of going to Cairo to listen to YANNI’s concerts which was performed in front of the Pyramids last November.

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Instead here I was sitting in Morristown, New Jersey  last week, listening to YANNI  in a small, rather stuffy theater. His music was beautiful as always, but  all I could think of was where are the pyramids? How could I have missed a magical moment under a star lit sky, listening to YANNI’s music and seeing the pyramids in the background?

The little devil has had a lot of trouble with me since then and the minute he starts to moves around in my mind, my new protection, my buzzword, stops him in his tracks – what is my buzzword?  Morristown!

During his concert YANNI shared a story about his father and the advice he had given him during their walks in the Greek mountains when he a child. He had told him:

“Never forget today is today. The future will also be today, and tomorrow will be today, and if you don’t know how to live today, you have never lived!”

Maybe it will help you to find a buzzword too?

And never forget – a smile changes everything!

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PUTTING ONE FOOT IN FRONT OF THE OTHER

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……will eventually get you there.

As an Indie author I have a rule – I must to sell a book a day – to whom? Anybody who will buy. I recently got a note from our doorman who had bought a book for his mother. He sent me the following message – Thank you so much for the book! My mother is enjoying it a lot since it fits her personality! Wish you great success!

Of course I would rather sell more books a day, and often I do, but these little encouragements are kicks carrying me forward, forward to bigger things to come.

And never forget…….a smile changes everything!

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DON’T GET STUCK IN THE PAST

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“Look at them they are wearing bedspreads” the man standing in front of me on the escalator said excitedly, while he was pointing to the two young girls in front of us.

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This could double as a bed spread, but it is a Ralph Lauren Poncho – the latest fashion Copyright BN

“Bedspreads? Really?  Well he was not so wrong some of the outfits could have passed as bedspreads. When we reached the top he stopped me and said in an even louder tone, “Don’t you see those are not dresses to go to a concert in – that’s not what women wore when I was young.” (This was at the  David Geffen Hall at Lincoln Center in New York a week ago))

“Well times have changed, it’s not the same anymore” I said while trying to go to my seat, but he followed me and continued, “And the worst is, everyone is in black, and often not wearing any make-up they look like they are already dead!”

Visibly upset he walked away still shaking his head and mumbling to himself. I guessed he was in his late 60s, dressed in a dark suit and tie.

I hoped for him that he would calm down, because if he didn’t and continued to be obsessed by the past – he would allow the past to spoil a beautiful concert.

Change is constant and if we don’t go with we will get irreversibly stuck.

And never forget – a smile changes everything

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MODERATION, MODERATION WHEN WEARING FLIP-FLOPS

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Summer arrived in New York yesterday with 70 – 75 degrees, and while the first rays of sunshine came out so did the flip-flops. They are everywhere  – on the street, in the theater, on the bus, in the subway – worn by men, women, and children – they are really the one for all, and for every occasion – yet equally unflattering for everyone.

But putting the look aside, I am surprised that nobody is listening to the warnings from doctors, who tell us over and over that they are harmful to our feet, legs and back. The offer no support for the ankles or protection from stubbed toes, and eventually are the cause of backache.

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Notice how red and swollen the flip-flop feet are?

Sorry to be so negative about your favorite summer shoes, which you are not ready to give up, I know – and you don’t have to if you wear your flip-flops in places they were designed for – around the pool, the beach, and  stretching it a little in your garden. Otherwise – if you love your feet and don’t want to have swollen feet or an aching back, opt for a pair of espadrilles which come in many forms and shapes.

And never forget – a smile changes everything

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SOONER IS BETTER THAN LATER

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Hello Everybody

In my last Blog I was happy to tell you that my book will be published on March 10 –  well, just to bring you up-to-date –  it was published on Amazon yesterday – and just in case you would like to order it – here is the link

http://www.amazon.com/Getting-Over-Growing-Older-Positive/dp/069262385X/

And the thought of the day is LOOKING GOOD NEVER GOES OUT OF STYLE. I am looking forward to hearing from you, either with questions, or stories about YOU which will be inspiring to us all.

And never forget – a smile changes everything

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