“When I am not here anymore you will miss me,” my mother said to me one day.
She had been particularly difficult that day and did not agree. But today, years after her death I know she was right.
Every year when I first realize that Mother’s Day is coming, my reaction is what has that got to do with me? I don’t have a mother and I feel sad and deprived.
Mothers are not always easy to deal with. When we become adults we often reject their advice. We don’t want them to tell us what to do. We don’t want to learn from their experience. We don’t want to hear about their life. We want to be our own person and sometimes I even went as far as saying:
“But that’s none of your business, it is my life!” Yes, it is my life, but would I be here without her?
When the umbilical cord is cut it only separates our bodies, because for a mother the connection to her child is never gone. The feeling to protect, to love, to nurture is never severed. It is sad, therefore, that only when our mother has left us do we see the complete picture. But maybe that is natural too, because from the day we are born our mother is a given. We don’t know a world without her. We take her love, her care, her admiration, support and above all her presence for granted. – DON’T – The day will come you wished you had another chance to tell her that you appreciate her love and affection.
Sunday it is Mother’s Day again. No, I don’t have to buy a card or a present. I don’t have to pick my mother up for lunch, but I will remember what she said every year on this day: “I am so lucky, I have Mother’s Day all year-long – I have the best daughter one can hope for.”
MAMI — wherever you are now maybe you can hear me -“I miss you — not only on Mother’s Day – but all year-long!”
HAPPY MOTHER’S DAY!